This is a skill like any other.. if you don't use it, you lose it.
Does he smell good?.. tell him
Look good?- tell him
Did something nice for you - tell him!
Make sure to have his favorite drink on hand
Notice the little things and see what you can do to make them happen
Never, and I mean NEVER, take for granted how hard he works every day.
Go one step further, tell someone else, go on.. tell them how great your husband is!
Be brave, brag about him in front of your friends. What the hell, let them be jealous that he brings you coffee in bed each day, opens up the car door for you or gets up and takes care of the kids so you can sleep in a bit.
I am not crazy, I know you are busy, I know the dog just threw up something awful on the rug and there is a faint noise of water running somewhere in the house, but do it anyway. Take a moment to remember why you fell in love with him and that electric-tingley way you used to feel when you first saw him..got that?.. ok.. now go say something about it!
What?.. he's not there.. text him!
Just do it.
( Warning, if you have gotten out of the habit it is going to feel freaky and false and he is going to be a bit confused, but keep at it, the rewards are worth it)
Keeping Her in Mind
It took me a long time to realize something about myself, which is that there are two things that I want from being married. First, I have always wanted to be adored. Yes, that's the word, and it's really the only word that expresses it. Second, I want to adore my bride in return. I actually realized the second thing first, chronologically, and for a long time I thought I was supposed to love without wanting anything in return; that somehow I was being a male chauvinist pig to want the adoration that I believe in the final analysis all men really want. What I didn't realize is that one doesn't happen without the other or, when it does, it's not what makes a marriage work. Altruistic love is an intensely powerful force, and selfless love moves mountains; this I truly believe. But I have also come to believe that to make a marriage all it can be the adoration must be mutual.
It isn't that you shouldn't want to be adored, it's that you can't ever take it for granted. Because it's not enough to worship your spouse. You have to show it, every day.
Want to be happily married? Try this ...
Buy her a flower, just one, when it isn't a "special day"
Trust her and ask what you can do to help, even when you're not sure that her decorating idea will look the way you want it.
Tell her she's beautiful, especially when she isn't dressed up and when she isn't expecting it.
Notice something she did for the house, for you, or for the kids, and say thank you, even though it's what she does every day.
Kiss her very softly on the cheek as you get out of bed to go to work or, better yet, as you get up early on Saturday to make breakfast.
When she least expects it, when she's doing something ordinary, tell her how sexy she looks or that she takes your breath away.
Never, and I mean NEVER, take for granted how hard she works every day.
Ok.. Maddie here... What are you doing to assure the health and growth of your marriage?
What marriage topics would you like us to tackle on future Mondays?