A Thought-filled Conversation- about SEX and your Teen
When I was a teen I had sex. Yep, there I said it and it's true. I was 16* and it was my choice.
It's a truth that is being spoken by 100's of Wesleyan students as they express their support for Planned Parenthood in the face of the organization losing any and all federal funding.
The fact is that teens have sex, and they need support in choices about sex ( including the choice to not have sex now). They need ( DESERVE) clear information about birth control, health services and a safe place to get tested when they worry the have slipped up. Teens need help with anything from a horrible case of cramps to worry that they might have been exposed to a sexually transmitted disease. You and your family might be the safe place for your own child but for many there is not a safe home. There is under education, shame and even physical punishment. Everyone deserves a safe haven.
The fact is that it's not just somene elses teen that is having sex, it's your teen, it's my teen and most of the teens in our lives and I bet some years ago it was you. It's not the "bad" kids, it's Christian and Jewish, and Buddhist and UU and Atheist teens. It's teens who are good students and on the honor roll, and Boy Scouts who help little old ladies across the street. And each and every one of these kids deserves a safe place to ask their questions and get health services when they need it. ( please note, that the " bad" kids deserve service as much as anyone else and maybe more since it's the rare " bad kid" who go there on their own and usually there is a pretty awful family behind these kids and they need as much love as we can give them)
Taking away honest talk and honest services will not stop teens from having sex. What is will do is increase the number of pregnancies from the one's who then skimp on birth control ( have you seen how much condoms cost?... how about BC pills?) or don't gain the correct knowledge in the first place. Or don't seek health care services and look past the signs of cervical cancer when they can't afford to go to the family doctor. There is nothing good to be gained and I applaud an open and frank discusion of these facts.
What do you think?
** Was it the best choice I ever made?..no...best sex?... not by a long shot. Good sex takes time, maturity and education but this has rarely has kept a teen from anything else so why do we think it will be so differnt when it comes to sex?
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